UNITY.I liked this chapter. I liked the analogy because having a healthy long lasting relationship with all the perks that we were created for, is hard work -- like climbing a mountain. I thought the three mountains people have to climb, misunderstanding, "me first," and mistakes were pretty good too.
I believe conflict is the pathway to true community. I believe that every relationship will be tested in the fire and see what it's made of. In my experience most people aren't willing to work hard through the mountainous terrain (if I may continue his analogy). I also believe the rough terrain could be smoothed over when both parties offer grace and forgiveness.
The other day I was sitting at lunch with someone who has had a crazy life with lots of hypocrisy and judgementalism. A life that has been riddled with negative relational experiences. This person was talking about how he has such high standards for everyone and is the first to point out inconsistencies and mistakes in others. I kind of blurted out, without thinking, "you didn't experience a lot of grace growing up, did you?" He emailed me later that day as he reflected on my question and said it was a big "aha moment" for him.
I think my mom is one of the most gracious people I've ever known, and I never realized how much I bennefited from that until this week.
When we loose the ability to offer grace to people, we loose the possibility for the depth and growth that come from the relationships God's wired us for.
Thoughts on the chapter?
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